For some it might be a soft touch or hours of cuddling, for others time in nature, for others yet lovemaking, dance or kinky experiences. Whatever you choose to initiate or follow, we suggest - go for consciousness, presence, being slower, and doing something different than what you are used to.
Below are the revised 6 Temple Pillars which serve as indicators of how we collectively uphold the container of the Festival and give space for magic to unfold. We would like you to read and integrate them well:
Milk'n'Honey is a beautiful time to nourish your soul and body with connection, love, & togetherness. Follow what will nourish you!
Own it!
∞ : : Invoking your vertical spaceholder - for the safety of our hive, as baseline: you agree to not harm yourself, others or the space. Beyond that, invite self-responsibility or sovereignty approach - you are the masterbee of your reality and your response to the world around you. That means you are the one to take care of your boundaries, emotional responses as well as desires and needs - clearly (usually verbally) communicating them with the other bees. Touch, nudity or erotic interactions are always optional and at your own discernment. Choose the appropriate level of your engagement for each experience. Honour your history, nervous system, blindspots and emotional maturity.
Care deeply
∞ : : Invoke your horizontal interconnectivity - as baseline: attune to the folks, nature and space around, support hive synergy, & respect confidentiality. Bring loving-presence to your encounters. Use the magical qualities of your eyes to transfigure your reality and the people in front of you by perceiving them in their highest potential. Invite compassion, knowing that nobody comes with an intention of harm and that everybody makes mistakes. Knowing that in our humanity, we automatically judge and put others into boxes - choose to see beyond these quick assumptions. If you ever feel your boundaries have been overstepped, it is your responsibility to give feedback. Equally, be open to receive feedback. Don't let yourself or anybody else leave with any grudges. Transfigure your tribe into a fully magical experience with your own inner attitude and outer honesty.
Express freely
∞ : : After respecting the no-harm baseline of safety for our hive and attunement to those around you - you have permission here to be the many versions of you, to allow emotions and states to move through you, and to love in many different ways. To role-play what is forbidden or unthinkable, to dress up that which you have never dared, to dance wildly, to feel deeply… Give yourself permission to allow space to what arises, including: resistance, tears, anger, grief, turn on... Radically, softly or creatively express your inner parts. Do not take anything personally, all is human.
Give yourself permission to be fully with what comes, including resistance, tears, anger, etc. Do not take anything personally!
Ask for support
∞ : : This is the end of a self-reliant bee! - we can’t do it alone - we need each other, now more than ever... At Milk’n’Honey we invite you to give and receive support from each other. What type of somatic support is accurate to meet you in a given moment? Watch your resources - if you feel tired, depleted, triggered, alone - even if it’s 10% intensity - ask for support from another bee. Only with resources can we deal with our challenges and this hive is a massive queendom of resources.
Explore
∞ : : Stay curious, explore the diversity of love & nourishament available to human experience - there are different ways to give and receive love and be nurtured. Romantic, erotic, sensual, friendship, companionship, physical, somatic, platonic, community, nature, feeling seen, motherly, fatherly - just to name a few. Which type of love do you long for? Which type of nourishment are you coming for? Which type of love are you abundantly able to share? Milk'n'Honey is inviting you to explore many different ways & levels you can feel loved and share your love.
Devote yourself
∞ : : Sacredness is available each moment – take this experience as an opportunity for coming more in alignment with yourself and the Universe. Offer your heart and presence in all your actions - especially when it comes to sexuality. Treat your body as a sacred altar, worthy of reverence, care and devotion.Tune into your intention for this journey. The generated energy of bliss and ecstasy can be used for prayer, gratitude & manifestation. Invite the mystery of the Unknown to unfold and pray through you.
Other Considerations
Hygiene & Safer Sex Practices:
The culture of sex-positive space is to use hand sanitizer or wash your hands with soap after touching genitals (including your own) and before moving on to engage with another person. Hand
sanitizer, condoms, and other safer sex supplies are available at the hygiene corner during Temples and workshops. Please always use your own property to sit on below your naked bum or genitals. Bring your own preferred safer sex supplies for increased comfort. A safer way to engage in any sexual encounter is to have a proper clearing and clarifying conversation with the person before going into action. This conversation could include sharing about your desires & intentions, boundaries, relationship status & boundaries, STD & sexual health status, and meaning of the interaction with any expectations of aftercare.
Emotions during the Event:
We will be offering various opportunities to receive emotional support from the team of well-experienced and super-compassionate Support Bees <3 Also, we do encourage self-responsibility and reaching out for support is always very very welcomed.
During Temple Nights specifically:
The Temple playground offers an opportunity to research oneself by observing your own patterns. As much as emotions are welcomed in the Temple Nights, it is not meant as a workshop or group process space. Therefore, we ask you to be mindful about taking the attention of the whole group for personal processes. Instead, if at any point you get triggered by anything we suggest you stop and breathe deeper.
If still needed to follow these steps:
1) shake – shake thoroughly your whole body combined with lots of breathing for a few minutes until your state shifts - take care of your own emotions by allowing the emotions to move in the body and dropping back to the essence – you can do so in the designated self-care space,
2) consciously request anybody
you feel that can support you (to share, be held, release more, etc.),
3) ask for support from one
of the Support Bees or the facilitators (even if they are engaged in an activity).
Watching i.e. Sacred Voyeurism:
There are various ways to interact with the space. One of them is watching others. The request is that when you are watching the space you are doing so consciously and as a choice. If observing the entirety of the space, take a stance of watching with eyes full of devotion, let your eyes receive the beauty and transmission of bliss from others – look at people seeing in them their highest potential and beauty (nobody likes to feel judgmental eyes on them especially while exposing their delicate sides). If focusing on specific people, we call it sacred voyeurism. Sacred voyeurism is a practice. Before engaging in it ask permission for watching of ALL people involved.
If, however, you find yourself watching the space while being in contraction / freeze / judgments or simply in your head this will not support either you or the space. Immediately, recognize it and turn to self-care as in the above point. Moving to a self-care space might be highly supportive. Shake shake shake. Breath, sound, and movement are your best allies.
Relationship Boundaries:
If you are in a relationship/partnership we strongly recommend that you agree upon your relationship boundaries before arriving at the Festival, regardless of whether your partner is attending with you or not. These would include boundaries around intimacy, intimate touch, sexual engagement, safer sex practices (e.g. protection), etc. This field encourages transparency, open communication, and authentic expression of desires with integrity. If you need support to create this communication with your partner, the Festival team can provide online sessions before the Festival (extra fees apply).
Facilitators Engagement:
Facilitators, helpers, and creators of the Event are also humans. They will play, love, and engage - including sexual interactions - adhering to the same principles and with maximum integrity, authenticity, and well-meaning. We promote and role-model empowerment of all beings and soul gift sharing from a place of power, love, grace and freedom.